Friday 8 August 2008

Inherited Or...

Have you ever come across people who egotistically take all the possible advantages from you without even thinking whether it will affect you or not? People who suddenly change their behaviour just because they don't need you anymore? People who treat you as if you are their family member when you are needed and then ignore you when they go higher up?.

You don't have to love your enemy or to turn your other cheek but live so that you don't trouble others. Sometimes I get tired of some people around me who are so greedy to an extreme end. I do believe that healthy selfishness is important because if you want to live you have to love yourself but I am talking about the behaviour when people ask you to live in the way they prefer (may be cos they find a way in yours that helps them to live theirs as they want). Developing self-interest and doing what you want to do is not wrong but it isn't always benign.

Do people become selfish when they just follow whatever that strikes in their mind or after a thorough logical analysis and judgement on how something could benefit them..them only...no matter whether it has any bad impacts on the outer world? And they get the pleasure of ticking off their list of wishes by paying off with others' happiness and peace. Very obnoxious. Perhaps as a result of an inherited selfish-gene. Why do they yearn for the undeserved income.

It would be more meaningful to ask yourself; are you doing something that is a complete disregard to others rather than whether it benefits others or not. You don't have to primarily do something for the good of others but may be something that is not bad for others. Because whether your actions are egotistic or not is contingent not just depending on the action but on its impacts on others. Now how would you describe the term rational selfish? Is human nature inspired by making up reasons. Are humans evolved so that someone can drill down to any level to give their explanation as to how their action is different from selfishness and differentiate between altruism and selfishness based on their needs and views. Or if you wanna put it this way, does selfishness mean loving yourself more than you should?

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

selfishness basically stems from pure acknowledgment of ur own desires and the complete and utter disregard of the very essential theory of treating others how u would like to be treated.

thats my perspective in a summary:P
sudi
-x-

k.ø.c.h.ü said...

thumps up!!! luv 2 write a lot here..but ill b bak soon...got sum job here..

Priya Joyce said...

I had many such classmates. so it is obvious that mhave experienced such things.
Its truly & thoroughly because of the selfishness no doubt.

Aneesh said...

Exactly!! That's what I was talking about a few weeks before about so called 'FRIENDS' who stick to you as leeches and later moves out after drinking your blood and won't even smile or notice if you walk past!!

Saranya S said...

Sudi: You are absolutely right! Thanks :)

Saranya S said...

Nithin: Thanks! :)

Saranya S said...

PJ: Hmm... Thanks priya :)

Saranya S said...

Aneesh: lol. Some strong words there! thanks :)

Hemanth Potluri said...

ur post has lot of things ....may be the reason i am quiting blogin because of the so called people who always like to back stab...i was totally into sadness and frustration and stop everything for the time..but ur post made me think a lot of things...i wanted to say many more but i wanted to write a big post on it ...thnks for it saranya...

Kumiththa said...

I have experienced this myself as well. I will really call this selfishness.In other words they just care for them and dont care what happens to others because of their action.

Saranya S said...

Hemanth: No worries. Take it as an experience and you know what to expect and whatnot from them anymore. I don't think its worth enough to give up things for such ppl. So move on :)

Saranya S said...

Kumiththa: Yeah that's very true!

Anonymous said...

i love being selfish to some people, when i want to, when i feel like, or if i rele hav to be so. thats all im saying.. u kno wht i mean amman .

Anonymous said...

true true true...

unfortunatly these people exist!

We just have to live on I suppose

Saranya S said...

Dileep: lolz, Nope, I don't! thanks for the comment :)

Saranya S said...

Bahar: Hmm..That's true! thanks :)

Anonymous said...

i had this experience so many times and am still gng through i know how it feels. cant do anyfink abt it cos thats hw some ppl are.

madix

Saranya S said...

Madi: Yeah we just have no choice other than finding a way to adapt to those! Hmm...!

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