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Choose your happiness

I was on a train a couple of days ago and noticed this phrase on every other window of the train;

We want everyone to have a great journey. So please consider others around you”.

This made me ponder a bit about how considerate we are of ourselves as well as of others. I had some self-time on this train journey, which does not happen often. Public transport became more familiar since my car broke down. Anyway let me not deviate from what I want to say. 

This  2 hours journey of not using my phone, replying emails or browse the internet was actually nice. Do we ever allocate some self-time to sit and be our selves during this busy life where we get no time to think about what we want or what really makes us happy, without judging ourselves. We should sit down alone every now and then may be at a coffee shop, park or whatever, and run through what we are doing lately, why we are making certain choices in our daily lives even if it is about picking which tea brand to drink at a café with someone. Are we really content with ourselves?  A lot of people pretend to be someone they are not, work so hard for it that they are afraid to have some alone time. Trust me there are people like that. Not to blame them due to this materialised world we live in. Thank God I do not fear facing myself in the mirror when I need to because of the ethics  I truly follow. Because I don't pretend to be someone else. 

You get to live your life once. By analyzing others’ lives, you don’t allow ourselves to be happy.  Why spend time straining your brain on what someone has said about some thing. Or what xyz says about a politician or what their neighbour bought yesterday. This is time to choose to do what makes you happy.

I have been recently coming across a few outbursts of opinions by someone on several things happening around the world. Very angry and occasionally hostile. Hardly anything happy. Why does this person have to be so negative towards everything? Well, of course it’s their perception of things, but again, why be so unhappy? This reminds me of a quote from Paulo Coelho; “some people are so happy with their unhappiness" . 

We judge differently and we come up with our own versions of what is ‘real’ and ‘right’ in our minds.  Its all a matter of the programming of our thought process. The process of judgement goes through a lot of filters that have been built over our lifetime, without being conscious about it. And that depends on our lifestyle, cultures and perhaps the successes and the failures of life as well. And not to forget, the quality of upbringing too. We all know that something right for one may not be so to another person. 

Yet why do we fail to keep an open mind about what others think is real? Why do we forget that a point of view is valuable to that individual? Opinions skew from person to person and why don’t we respect the fact that we are all born with that sixth sense that human talk often about. No matter how different your education level is. What a person think is real or right is based on their life, experience and their life through their pair of eyes. Do we really need to throw a big fuss when someone doesn’t agree with us on something on the table. Why some of us just cannot keep it a healthy discussion. I come across people who make nasty comments about others’ opinion to get across their perception but fail to understand that it doesn’t make it real or right. It is just a pure immaturity. If you have a point, make it clear but being unnecessarily loud about it in a hostile manner will probably make it sound only stupid however good it could be.

My reality is what I think is right and wrong and it could perhaps reflects my life through my own eyes. And yours is the same. This doesn’t mean you keep your mouth shut and don’t give a damn when something is going seriously wrong in the society. For example; rapes and violent threats. You have the freedom of opinion, speech and a great gift of being a human but don’t go around abusing it, taking it for granted and making hostile opinions on others’ views just because you can.  If you must express your disagreement, do it in a grown up, constructed way. 

Be happy. Life is short, as they say :-) 


dpirsm said…
and thank you for sharing that

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